CHAPTER SNIPPET: Joining the ranks of motherhood can (and usually does) immediately open the gates to a very powerful and previously inaccessible fraternity of women, from varying backgrounds and professional experiences that are bound together by one common and unifying challenge – parenting.
For a really long time I did what I could to blend in. To not cause a scene or stand for anything too cray cray. And when it didn’t work and I ended up at the center of something silly I spent hours beating myself up about it, which was even sillier.
Now, I think life is too short. Kids and time have helped me to realise that owning who you are and what you have to offer is the best foot you can put forward in life.
Last night I got dressed for an event. I felt good. My husband walked in and asked if I was sure I wanted to wear what I was wearing, because “most women wear dresses” to this particular fancy pants dinner. I told him I was sure that my tight black jeans and silk top were the perfect platform for bold red lips. And, that I didn’t mind if everyone else was wearing a dress.
He was right. Everyone was in a dress.
I was right. It was better to stand out.
Your entire outlook on life can change as soon as you prioritise spending a little bit of time on yourself. Even if it is only 5 minutes, grabbing a coffee or sitting in the sun at lunch, do it. Bank those soul $$$ as often as possible… they all add up.
After more hours than I had planned the kids and I finally completed this collaborative artwork. I turned a bunch of their painting from school into colourful strips… then made a geometric pattern. They were so proud to see their art framed and on the wall. Highly recommended activity, especially if they are good at ‘snipping’.
Taking the kids paintings and turning them into a collaborative artwork. Almost there… I hope!
Life is too short to waste time on people who don’t make you feel good about who you are.
I did this for a really long time and I truly wish I had learnt the hard way sooner… you don’t have to be friends with everyone and they don’t have to be friends with you.
Pick the people who you invite into your inner circle wisely, because they should be grateful to be there and you should be grateful that they are.