For a really long time I did what I could to blend in. To not cause a scene or stand for anything too cray cray. And when it didn’t work and I ended up at the center of something silly I spent hours beating myself up about it, which was even sillier.
Now, I think life is too short. Kids and time have helped me to realise that owning who you are and what you have to offer is the best foot you can put forward in life.
Last night I got dressed for an event. I felt good. My husband walked in and asked if I was sure I wanted to wear what I was wearing, because “most women wear dresses” to this particular fancy pants dinner. I told him I was sure that my tight black jeans and silk top were the perfect platform for bold red lips. And, that I didn’t mind if everyone else was wearing a dress.
He was right. Everyone was in a dress.
I was right. It was better to stand out.
There is nothing quite like the joy in kids eyes when they have something to share. You have to really be looking though to see the difference it makes when they know they have 100% of your attention. You can see a little piece of their tender soul glowing. It is truly magical. Don’t ever underestimate what this means to them.
Sometimes I forget to really listen, hurried by the business of life and the next task on the list. It’s times like this though that I realise how sacrilegious that is, and how detrimental it can be to the little people who see us as thier everything.
As often as you can, kneel down (if you still have to) and really look into their eyes. It truly change the way they look at you, how excited they are about what they have to say and reminds them that they are your everything as well.
Today I read an incredible tribute from Sheryl Sandberg to her late husband, Dave. It was inspirational, sad, enlightening, raw and life affirming all at once. I have long respected what she is about and even more so now. She is an inspiration to humanity and has sent a timely reminder to the world to… live.
She mentions a childhood friend who told her the most powerful one line prayer he had ever read was: let me not die while I am still alive. If you haven’t read her touching tribute, you should read it here now.
Sometimes we spend too much time focusing on what we are not. You’re better to focus on what you are and put your strengths to good use.
You will never be everything to everyone; it is impossible – even for the stars. Wasting time trying to be someone or something that is too far from your reach prevents you from taking advantage of what might be right in front of you!