The New Girl by Carly Casey | www.carlycasey.com

Chats and wine are always divine.

What a magical combination. Seriously, is there anything better than getting together with a group of girlfriends, having something delicious to eat, enjoying a glass of wine (or two), and partaking in some genuine and honest conversation that ranges from downright hysterical to truly moving.

Honesty. What does it mean?

To me it means feeling less alone, sharing stories that mean something, sharing stories that make others laugh, being open and honest and feeling comfortable enough to admit that life isn’t perfect, that sometimes things can be a struggle. Honesty is sharing a part of yourself that can be scary and trusting that the people you are sharing it with will still love and respect you all the same.

This kind of honesty is healing, cathartic, and soul nourishing. I am so lucky to have a number of wonderful women in my life that allow me to not only be honest about my own comings and goings, but also share in both their joys and hardships. In the days of social media where a select few feel the need to present their life as something that it truly isn’t, it is easy to get caught out thinking you are the only one holding the shit end of the stick.

Honesty brings people together. It binds you. It is important. It can be the difference between a friend feeling like they have no one and a friend feeling like they don’t “need” anyone else. This is very powerful.

Friendship and honesty with women that you trust is a different kind of magical to the friendship and honesty you have with a partner, husband or your family. In the words of C.S Lewis, “friendship is unnecessary, like philosophy, like art…. it has no survival value; rather it is one of those things that give value to survival.”

x L