There are days when I’m not really into shining brightly. Usually, when I’m sick or I have had no sleep. But I still give it an epic crack.
Because it’s part of the reason people remember you. Maya Angelou famously said: people won’t remember what you did or said, they will remember how you made them feel.
This is the truth, people do. We all feed on energy and our demeanour has the opportunity to change not only the interactions we have, but also the opportunities we are given. If you’re a dead fish about it, they’ll remember that instead.
Kids are balls of energy. People love to be around them because it “keeps them young”. I also get the old favourite, “we should bottle that energy and sell it”, when my two boys are running amuck. No need. We all have it – even us tired, old adults. We just have to be willing to share it with everyone, the way kids do.
When you meet someone for the first time there’s a transfer of energy. It is usually positive or negative, and the experience cannot always be controlled by you alone. But the best foot forward is always a warm hug. Not necessarily literally, more in the sense that inner joy will always trump awkward, angry, shy, rude, fake, impersonal, dull.
This is especially true in business.
When you write an email try not to write it like you would rather be doing anything else. Focus on the importance of the message and what it means to the person you are sending it to. Do you know them well? Could anything be misinterpreted? Have you thoughtfully read your note before sending? Energy.
When you look your kids in the eye and listen to their weird stories about dragons and cars, give them a thumbs up and smile excitedly, just as they do, every time. Energy.
When you bump into someone you know, don’t look down and hope they didn’t see you. Genuinely smile from the inside and out, and then simply wave if you don’t have time to talk. People like to be seen and feel recognised. Special. Energy.
When someone you don’t know starts a random conversation, make sure you give something in return… for what if you’re the only person to care enough that day to have a kind heart and listen – and it changes everything for them. I feel this way especially about older people on buses, alone. Energy.
You don’t have to give it all away. Keeping some for yourself is just as important. But truly listening and giving more than a granule of energy to everything you do will be remembered. Because people don’t like dead fish, unless it’s severed up as part of a delicious meal (no offence to the fruitarians, vegetarians and vegans of this world).